June 2, 2026

48 thoughts on “Psychology Will Show You How To Turn Your Life Into A New Living Container, But For WHO?

    1. What an emotional article.

      I grew up poor but crawled out of the dark hole and survived when I ‘moved to the city’ from a small Iowan farm. [I had ten siblings]. Paid for my own rent, car, and college education working 3 jobs so my grades were ‘average’. [Took 6 years to finish college against all odds]. Met a guy who had a 9 year old…had 2 sons of my own….we moved back to his ‘home town’ and this house I have lived in since 1992 is a small historical mansion, built in the ’30’s and I was basically a ‘college-educated’ stay-at-home mom, leaving behind that ‘great degree’ & job to provide beautiful memory’s & safety for my kids.

      We are estranged from the 9 year old who is now 48…things aren’t much better with my sons and the liberal stuff they learned in college combined with the liberal women they married have turned my world upside down.

      Back in 2020, during the 1st covid lock down, I decided to start organizing all the stuff … I made 3 piles organized in a room in the basement. They did not want much of any of it [if they could be bothered to even look]…meanwhile, parents and in- laws died years ago, so I had a 4th pile of old treasures and photo albums…I have a pile of old home movies and photo albums.

      On December of 2021, I had reached out to Dianne about what to do about emotional blackmail with my son…
      He was about to be a new daddy, and he told me: “no vaccination, no see your grand kid”….I will forever be obliged to Dianne with her advice.

      This has overlapped into another area – inheritance money. Husband and I worked so hard for many years, and at this point, if they don’t want to know about these item’s history, or their own, what do I do with all this stuff? With the hopes they will ‘one day’ want to see old video’s? My youngest son doesn’t care to learn about his ancestors or the struggles they had…what little I have from my mom/her side is to be discarded or ended up in a landfill? Makes a person like me wonder if the ‘stuff’ they accumulate will some day end up in a ‘land fill’. For sheets & giggles, watch the George Carlin video on ‘stuff’.

      Are my kids waiting for us to die so they can inherit this $? Will they just bulldoze this house down? [This used to be quite the party house and my d.i.l. thinks there is too much 3rd hand smoke in the walls and woodwork].

      One of the reasons I hung on to their stuff was for the day they settle down….but with one kid in the military, and the other one who can’t afford a home in Denver, it looks like it will never happen….the straw’s that broke the camel’s back? This last December my older son returned an old rocking horse from when he was born, claiming they didn’t have any ‘room’ for it…the other straw that broke? Step-daughter not inviting us to her upcoming son’s wedding..at the very least, she could have sent an invite to her dad/grandpa. The 3rd straw was of course the blackmail….what’s it all about? For 39 years, I have worked on keeping this family together…what did I learn? Step parenthood is a farce….emotional blackmail is terrible…my wisdom regarding health issues is equal to ‘witchcraft’ & I am a racist Trump supporter – and no they don’t want any ‘stuff’. Sometimes, I will hold an object in the air and ask my husband: “Do you know where this came from?”. He has not done very well with this game!

      So ‘if’ my kids come around, are these kids trying to be ‘nice’ for the inheritance?

      Oh I forgot to mention how my 6 year old grand son told me I am not to use the word ‘stupid’ [I was referring to a fake drawer in the kitchen, telling him it was a ‘stupid design’]….there are many new rules now when they come for a ‘visit’….and I work very hard at home cooking and cleaning this little mansion/and fresh bedding….husband has had many health scares since he is heavily vaccinated….and all kids have been too busy to come back to help….they just want to be entertained and no further discussions of any sort are allowed.

      If I shall die first, inheritance money won’t matter…but so help me God, if I am in a position to declare who gets what? I will be like I was when the kids were little: “Please write a paragraph as to why you think you deserve…..”.

      1. You love your prodigal sons/daughters regardless for your heart is what you shall be judged by, not theirs. There are things you can do to find others in need of some things like a rocking horse that was refused… there are families who would cherish that. Same as in a will, you can leave your property to whom ever you desire, even a stranger. Smile. The stranger just may value that property like a castle… seek and you shall find the one that God lays on your heart to give it to. A person in need and let it be known in the will that the Lord has led your heart to the recipient, not you. So praise the Lord for the home. Smile. I am beginning to believe this is the message for many of His children to begin to see. I have a friend whose wealthy aunt passed and left the majority of her estate (a few millions) to her Church and doled out the rest to nieces and nephews and some friends in smaller doses. Like ten thousand to 1 thousand dollars. That was how she did it. At the time, the friend who said they were ONCE close. But hadn’t seen her in years wondered why she didn’t give her more. I had no idea and just listened to her woe of what she and others could have done with the money. I now understand her logic where at the time I wondered why she even bothered to include nieces and nephews etc. There was a big message sent in the way she did that. Smile. To recall back, there was no asking for any of her things as a keep sake, the focus was on the money. So, that being said… remember you can will your belongings to whomever you desire. Smile.

        1. And if you are taken home first… rejoice that your reward is in heaven and not in the things of the world. Remember the soldiers cast lots for Jesus’s garment as those of the temple shouted blasphemies at Him. They willingly discarded the greatest gift and knew it not. Don’t let the foolish and blind ones take away your joy, your memories, nor your power to forgive and give to others freely. Pray unceasing and the Holy Spirit will guide you. Amen.

          1. Thank you for replying Dianne…a little while ago I was ‘thumped on the head’ (my expression from loved ones passed on) and I have decided to bury the items…we have land that I have in mind for this and these items deserve a proper burial. ‘Smile’ as you say right? !

            Imagine someone’s delight when they find these things…

            As far as the rocking horse, I gave it to my younger son and his son is enjoying it. But it still breaks my heart. [Especially since it was from the oldest son’s Godmother….and they have gone through the motions of Catholic rituals such as a Catholic wedding and Baptism ]. I have put all their home-made Christmas ornaments in the attic. [I don’t wish to discuss how that made me feel mostly because youngest son is now an ‘atheist’].

            Oh well, such is life….I will pray on this more.

  1. I have a metal trunk in the attic filled with many memories. I had the trunk when I was 11 years old and kept a diary. The trunk holds that diary as well as love notes, prom pictures, an old jewelry box and many other treasures that my son will probably chuckle about after I die. I think that he’ll find the childhood love notes quite hysterical! I am sentimental and I have a Mother’s Day gift from my son on my antique dresser mirror. He describes me in his words and it is so precious. It has faded over the 25 years with the sunlight. I hang onto all of these tokens because they have made me the person who I am today.

  2. My grandmother taught me to have a “keepsake” box for my little treasures when I was a girl. That keepsake box became larger over the years. Many household things I offered to family, friends and would finally donate. My husband and I each have a keepsake storage box of notes, letters, cards, photos, essays and drawn pictures we have saved. We go through them occasionally when we want to revisit our past. I am sorry we disposed of our vinyl collection, but we still have cassette tapes and CDs. Over the years we have given to our children those items which pertain to them (once they were old enough to evaluate the value). My husband has his own room (extra small bedroom) for his stamp collection and I never enter for cleaning. We don’t live in the past but love the occasional visits and memories. I believe we learn from history, even our own history. Walks down memory lane are enjoyable. We also know that God gives us today to do the with as we best can…tomorrow is a promise and yesterday was a learning experience. Hopefully all of our days include(d) love and faith.

  3. A little off base, but I just read today that Willie Mays, passed away yesterday at 93.

    I went to Candlestick Park 3 or 4 times as a kid with my Grandpa and cousins to watch The Say Hey Kid, and the rest of the Giants play. RIP Willie..!!

  4. Dianne This was such a great article and got me to thinking again. I have always been someone I would consider awake to the real world, but even this article got me to thinking that they have been trying to control EVERY ASPECT of our lives and some even AWAKE people do not see. I believe it is all in controlling our minds. How can we truly grow if we forget where we have already been. I believe the worst thing you can ever do is forget where you have been. These are things that help keep a person HUMBLE

      1. No Henry, the cup of the hand 🥰
        Going to work one morning (45 miles ow) listening to my daily dose of spiritual food from a local pastor in JAX. He was sharing his method of discipline he had for his children. He stated when the children started getting out of the toddler stage the children like to try their wings out. One day the growing of their wings
        Lead them in trouble with Dad. I believe this was the oldest child and probably his first spanking. Dad explained to the young ones God made everything for a reason. To administer the punishment Dad told the young child he was to push his pants down where he could cup his hand around that little cheek. Dad said the cup of his hand fit “perfectly”
        Around that small little butt “cheek”.
        He told the toddler, “God makes everything for a reason” 🥰👼

        1. 🤣…True Indeedy.

          Proverbs 26:3 KJV
          A whip for the horse, a bridle for the ass, and a rod for the fool’s back. (In most modern sense “fool’s ass”, too).
          However, in the old days men were scourged on their back mostly, b/c it was MUCH more painful.

    1. 100% Mr. Adkins!

      Deuteronomy 8:2 KJV
      And thou shalt remember ALL the way which the LORD thy God led thee these forty years in the wilderness, TO HUMBLE thee, and TO PROVE thee, TO KNOW what was in thine heart, whether thou wouldest keep his commandments, or no.

      Commit EVERYTHING(memories, testimonies, etc) to GOD ALMIGHTY for Safe Keeping and he will keep it in YOUR treasure house in Heaven in THE PLACE HE IS PREPARING FOR YOU, as you live and breathe.

      Matthew 6:21 KJV
      For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

      He will remind you of things just when you need them. No one or thing can steel them from God, and we can’t know perfectly well when we need them, but God will remember and remind us in perfect timing.

      Matthew 13:52 KJV – Then said he unto them, Therefore every scribe which is instructed unto the kingdom of heaven is like unto a man that is an householder, which bringeth forth out of his treasure things NEW AND OLD.

      I clean houses for people(some are neat & tidy, some are clean, some are filthy, some are hoarders, some have little, some have much)…but I NEVER throw anything in the trash without asking them first, or letting them see what I deem TRASH…I am entrusted to organize, sort, and clean very personal things, and customers have me stay and work on this while they are away. It is a privilege of sort to be trusted, as a personal Butler or Servant.

      “One man’s floor is another man’s ceiling”, just as one man’s trash can be another man’s treasure.

      Great Article Dianne!
      Very Necessary for this end of the age when History is Rewritten Daily, The Good is Thrown in the Garbage or Burned, and The Sewer Thrown in our Faces, and Served on The Kitchen Table.
      It is an understatement to say these days are Backwards and Upside Down. These days ARE EVIL INDEED!

      Isaiah 26:3 KJV – Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.

      Psalm 119:165-170 KJV
      Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.
      LORD, I have hoped for thy salvation, and done thy commandments.
      My soul hath kept thy testimonies; and I love them exceedingly.
      I have kept thy precepts and thy testimonies: for all my ways are before thee.
      Let my cry come near before thee, O LORD: give me understanding according to thy word.
      Let my supplication come before thee: deliver me ACCORDING to thy word.

  5. Oh Me, Oh My! I Love My Things! You made me think and cry with me remembering all the memories of all the stuff I have and my dad asking me how I could remember all I do and that he asked would I remember him forever like I do all the other people and things of course I said YES! I would never forget! He is gone now and I never forget him or others and I keep All My Things! Love you Dianne! Iwont ever forget all you you done for all us here! 😁💗🥰

    1. Very true Emma…we never forget those who embarked on our journey.

      I built a little planter box out front, and last year I noticed a plant on the outside edge that I hadn’t planted, but it was a plant that a dear old friend who had recently passed loved, called a Forget-Me-Not…I scratched my knoggin’ as I know most of the neighbors, and no-one has that plant…my wife’s last words to her were “come back and visit me”. This fall I’m re-planting that box with her plant and other favorites and calling it Forget-Me-Not.

      My favorite Orchard, I couln’t pass it up..lol

      https://i.postimg.cc/15ZLzQSn/20240503-095514.jpg

      1. My dear God mother, my Aunt, Gave me a long time ago a beautiful old climbing rose that never grew for me then one day not long ago after she passed I planted a pine tree in the spot and now year after year her rose climbs that pine tree and blooms the most beautiful pink blossoms every year since. I was scratching My Head too wondering where did that rose come from and lo and behold my aunt has come to stay with me to remember her always she was waiting for me to remember her! 😊💕

      2. Tong asked me to tell you he knows how it feels to be that size in a chair. He said he could have sworn you were taller and had no idea you were close to his size. I had to explain it to him… but he still thinks you are really closer to his size. He said the photo doesn’t lie. You are his hero.

  6. Sleep patterns are another thing that gets debated. Some people are early morning people and work best going to bed early and rising early 4 or 5 A.M.. Others perform better by staying up late and getting a lot done and sleeping in to 8 or 9 maybe even until noon – if they went to bed when the early morning risers were just getting up around 4 or 5. Funny isn’t it we never hear the late nighters harping on the early morning risers, it’s always the other way around. Yet, our world functions 24/7! We have people who work first shift, second shift, and third shift in order to keep things moving. Even in ancient days there were watchman who stayed awake all night to guard the city and or villages. Light sleepers can awake and be ready upon hearing the slightest noise, while others sleep deep and are hard to awaken and take a while to become alert. Imagine if you will having an emergency in the middle of the night – I bet you are thankful that there is a third shift working at the hospital, the fire department, the police, etc. it would be awful if everyone had to go to bed by 8pm or 10 and no one was available to do anything until they woke up. We all are unique and there is a reason God made us all different. We make up a body and not all are the head, the arms, the legs… some are special little joints that make it all move together.

    The same thing applies to what we eat. Vegetarians versus meat lovers. It’s not been the meat eaters who shout at vegetarians to eat meat and stop eating plants. Same as climate change – it all fits together like a big brainwashing mind control program designed to agitate and frustrate people due to differences. It’s the root of racism, antisemitism, and all the ism’s to divide and conquer. Loving your neighbor as yourself does not mean forcing them to be exactly like you or what you want. That is control and abuse. It means loving them for who they are and accepting their talents and little quirks. Everyone has a favorite food, favorite flower, favorite color… let them be free to have it. Diversity is a strength. God has given each person born special talents and skills. Find them and use them. Amen.

    1. Amen! And well said, Dianne. It all reflects onto our beloved Creator who made us all different to fulfill His purposes & for His & our enjoyment. How boring it would be if we were all the same. I agree with those who say the evil ones seek to control our minds & how we think. We must seek to have the mind of Christ, to think like The Almighty thinks which is always right. The devil is the ultimate control freak but he will never win, thank God.

  7. I’ll be honest, at first glance I didn’t think much of it, but after your clarification, their intent is much more obvious.
    I will say, that I for one, who’s not a creative being, but has always suffered a bit from a.d.d. has learned that some extra “junk” does weigh heavily on the mind.
    I first identified this in my daughter, as cleaning her room was always such a heavy task. She would let it get so messy that she felt she couldn’t function in it, so all she would do was sleep in there. She felt like it paralyzed her ability to move. So at some level, a filtered environment is healthy. I think the less we have the easier it is to keep what we have. I for one have 3 kitchen “junk drawers,” that I sometimes wish someone would just come in and dump for me. Just your usual, screws, magnets, pens, crayons, shoe laces…..

    1. I’ll organize it for you…Lol…cause I’ll bet as you stand and watch me dumping it all in the trash, you’ll say..”Wait!, I need that!”, or Oh Looky Here!, my old such & such Papa gave me when I was 12″, or whatever…Lol.
      Organized minds often are the most cluttered physically, while Disorganized minds are very organized physically. I found this to be from experience.
      My mind is all over the map, and some call me that word they call people who are super(Like Monk)…I forget…lol. While my brother is extremely organized in his mind, and very cluttered physically(but very successful).

  8. Interesting thoughts! I remember that in 2020-2021 that Marie Kondo’s japanese art of decluttering became very popular. It sounds great to get rid of clutter. But what are they really wanting us to do? Between my husband’s fishing collection and my sewing and book collection we really should downsize( life gets in way of many goals). But when it comes to used items in house that do hold memories what do we do with them? I remember that a tip of advice that Marie Kondo gave was to throw out or donate items that no longer brought joy. Well, what happens if one day you found you really needed that item for a useful purpose. Now I maybe can’t replace the item or I need to go spend more money to replace what I got rid of. Or maybe the books that I have, for instance, could be saved for for the next generation! I’m so glad that my grandparents and parents saved items that had special values to them to share with me. We need to consider so much before we give away and donate our belongings. I really try to give items to those who would actually put it to use.

    1. I had to listen to relatives and friends say no one wants antiques anymore
      They thought of it as junk
      No class whatsoever— shallow brainwashed people
      It’s very sad 😞
      I agree with you Dawn but it’s hard to find people who actually care

      1. I actually go to antique and thrift stores to find my items that I need. I like to get what is not plastic! One man’s junk is another man’s treasure!

      2. I love going into antique shops and looking for special items. Vintage today also includes so many things we discarded in our own lifetimes. Oh to have saved some of those items – their value today is lucrative. How many things were sold in rummage sales for almost nothing that today are collector items? Smile. Aside from that, as you said… replacing what you got rid of because you decluttered wasn’t always the best thing to do. I was laughed at and made fun of for saving pieces of wood trim. My family quit laughing when it was used to finish off a wall in a new house and it matched. Smile. I had saved that trim for almost 20 years… it was well carved with a unique design and I had thought to use it for some small creative project (I love to make things) ..little did I know that it would be needed to match the wood trim in a house I would later move into.

        1. I bought an antique yellow floral framed mirror it was beautiful to me even though there was a huge scratch or crack in the mirror! I hung it on my wall in a back bedroom smiling every time I walked into the room looking at that mirror now it’s been Years and it finally dawned on me to take that mirror out and I put a cherish old photo of my husband and I dating in it and my husband trimmed a piece of glass for the outside and Oh it looks just like it was meant to be More beautiful then I could imagine!

    2. That’s funny you brought her up today, as I was just thi king about her while I organized a customer’s entire kitchen & pantry. It’s funny though b/c I knew nothing of her till just recently when a customer told me about her. I never even watched her show longer than 3 min, but had the same thought you just wrote…Lol..
      “What are they trying to get us to do?” That is the correct mindset. What are they HINTING AT, coupled with the Hoarder show. THERE IS AN AGENDA BEHIND IT ALL.! ERASE & REWRITE HISTORY, KILL THE ELDERLY, BRAINWASH or KILL THE CHILDREN, AND IMPRISON THE MIDDLE-AGED IN OUR OWN HOMES…Just read 1984, and you will understand where we are at this moment
      1984 is here in real time!

  9. Thanks for this one Dianne.
    My father passed away 7 1/2 yrs ago. He was my best friend and the first one to take me fishing at age five. The two of us fished together for 48 years. He had several old fishing lures in his basement and I put them in a shadow box that is now in our living room along with a photo of him at the bottom. To the left of the photo is a counter the you click. We used that to keep track of how many fish we had so we wouldn’t go over our limit. The number on the counter is set to 301. That is the date he passed March 1st. There are so many memories in that shadow box.
    When my wife and I first started dating, and things became more serious, I told her that if she ever wanted to have trouble between us the quickest way to do that was to try and make me stop fishing. That was 39 years ago. 🙂
    Hold on to those precious memories.
    Draw nigh unto the Lord and he will draw nigh unto you.

    1. JP, same here for my hubby. When I met hubby he had already started an annual visit to a fishing lodge in Alaska with his father,
      brother and a uncle. (Started their trips in
      the late 80s, missed one yr. This year will be 30 something years with just he and his brother, now.) But, the collection of reels, rods, flys, pictures, books, letters, etc that I have learned about from hubby are very precious memories with his dad and brother and the lodge keeper family. For gifts for hubby I have framed fishing maps, shadow box flys (every fly different and unique) made photo albums or cards. The memories make more memories when you go back and open the boxes, again and again. The song, 🎼 “Precious Memories” comes to my mind at this moment. Another memory I’d like to share: Hubby & I were married our mothers got together and made a poster board of pictures of him and I as we were growing up. We are definitely the country mice and city mouse couple. 2 examples of the pictures: 1/ Photo of me sitting on a small Ford tractor with overalls about 5 yrs old and hubby in red velvet overall shorts with a new bike at the age of 6 yo 🤪 2/me at 4 yrs old in a washtub in the summer cooling it under a pecan tree. Hubby at a resort at a pool probably 7 yrs old. Isn’t wonderful to know that even our parents wanted to remember the memories so they saved them with a “simple” photo. 🙏🏻❤️🎼🎵

      1. The ‘Precious Memories’ song was on my mind while I was typing my post. I just didn’t take the time to post a link to it.

        1. Neat……it’s a memory you remembered 🎼🎵 this stuff goes deeper than the rabbit hole 🥴💭

          1. Cherish every memory – throw out the Tavistock Psychology mind wash. The Lord is the one that can heal your heart and refresh you…. He is the one to follow – we learn from our mistakes, don’t erase them. Smile.

    2. My husband is an avid fly fisherman! We’ll just say he has an Extensive collection! He had been fishing and even making bamboo fly rods for at least 40 years( at least) before we married. There is no way I was messing or getting rid of anything! Amazingly, he remembers where the rods are, there are quite a few), the history of the rod and how much he paid for them! I can’t even keep them straight or remember the names. He also repairs rods, so he has all sorts of parts, pieces and tools for that! As Dianne said, never move things belonging to creative people! He would notice! I have been guilty of organizing! All that to say that he too has lost of great memories fishing and we also are still creating more!

      1. Our pole barn has cane pole, and Rods and reels hung on one wall used by grand dads and kids for generations! I Love all these stories! I Love fishing with family and friends!

    3. Amen. Fishing is a time to be with nature and God. It gives one a time to be still and hear the wind, watch the water for a ripple… and sink deep into thoughts. It is a memory builder and every fisherman has their own fish stories and special moments on the shore and in the boat. It truly teaches patience and discipline. Smile.

      1. It catches you reflecting of All Kinds Of things! Night time and the Harvest moon thinking of family times spent camping and fishing. Never forget! It’s LOVE…..Light and the Lord mending our spirits! Amen

    4. AwesomeJP! My husband has a double fish basket and inside is all the bobbers and fishing lures of his dad and grandpa and my dad and grandpas stuff! It hangs from the ceiling in our house!

      1. My wife keeps a spotless house. My shadow box get dusty and she never says a word. She knows eventually I will take everything down dust and put it back.

        1. I don’t care about dust we will clean it eventually! I just took down pictures and cleaned some because we were talking about memories so I was looking at them pictures a little to close and had to get out the dust rag! LOL

    5. I’ve been collecting vinyl records since my Dad taught me how to put a 45rpm on the record player…and now I have over 6,000 LP’s and a few hundred 45’s and boxes of cassettes and 8-tracks. CD’s ruined it for me, especially when a friend of mine and I took a look at the WAV file of a certain LP and CD…man they don’t give a rat’s behind about mixing and it’s all about the more noise the better. Now, I’m contemplating offering the whole collection to a buyer, but that’s gonna be tough, since most of the so-called collectors want them for their value in money, not the music, and they can browse all they want but it’s all or nuttin’. I have my favorites including all my Dad’s in the living room.

      Hang on to them goodies..!

      1. Wow 6000! That’s a lot of LP’s! My first real job in the early 1980’s was with CBS Recoords. They were still pressing vinyl records. They were also the largest cassette manufacturing plant in the world. When Michael Jackson’s ‘Thriller’ album was released every piece of equipment in that plant ran that release for nearly 3 years. CBS set a personal plant production record for 24 hrs. 608 thousand cassette tapes duplicated, finished, packaged and in the warehouse ready to ship.
        Twice a year CBS would have a employee sale and we could buy LP’s for 2 dollars and cassette tapes for 1 dollar each. Limit 50 per of each per employee. I still have some of the picture disk LP’s. They probably will never be worth much but I still hang onto them. A few of the stars that were on the record label would tour the plant from time to time . I met Ozzy Ozborne and Travis Tritt.
        I Worked there 17 1/2 yrs until NAFTA and Cd’s put us under. That was a pretty cool job.

      2. Henry, Tong said to keep them. Money is nothing compared to the real thing. That is part of what makes you, YOU!!

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